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Author Name: FreeSensual Sorceress 49 Comments
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Ribbons and Bows Rape
Ribbons and Bows Rape
They were wed in a quiet ceremony
That was okay with her, she loved him
She gave him the things he said he wanted
Always a loving wife, proper and prim
Years passed by quickly at first glance
The children changed things as they came
She had to run the home as best she may
Her life would never again be the same
He began to get demanding and coarse
Soon he felt so drunk with power
She tried to love him well in spite of this
Though soon she was seen to cower
Then the first time came and she said no
He would not accept her decision
She was forcibly taken that night
Placing her inside a desperate prison
Perhaps that one time wouldn't matter
It happened again, of that be sure
When this illness inflicts someone
The disease hasn't any cure
It went on time and time again
He was her husband, he had his rights
She wasn't to have a choice in this
And no way to win this fight
It is all just ribbons and bows rape to me
How dare anyone be so horrid and bold
A marriage certificate doesn't allow for this
To kill a woman inside, leaving her cold
Author's Notes:

I have a friend that was raped by her husband. Many women are victims of this heinous crime and KNOW it is a CRIME..... I call it ribbons and bows rape since so many seem to think that if you are married it is a right rather than a privilege to share .........

I hate what happens in these situations, it's not about sex, but about control..

To anyone in this situation ...... Please get any and all help you can.

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Comment By: PremiumVizualEnsemble on December 15, 2006 04:40:41 PM Report
Amazing yet painful. I agree with you 110% dear. This goes on

more often than it should. These women need to get out of

a situation such as this. But unfortunately some stay, those

captured by control. This angers me so much for a man to

think it is ok to do such! Thanks for sharing, hopefully

your words will reach someone in this situation and hopefully

they take heed to your words.


Comment By: FreeSophie on October 24, 2006 01:31:30 PM Report
Amazing, this made me feel so much...i will have to read more of your stuff, very VERY good.





Comment By: FreeGoliath Assassin on October 9, 2006 04:52:16 PM Report
Dang!  Powerful stuff here.  You made your point so well... If I may?  I read an article one time where various older couples were being asked how they had managed to keep their relationships so strong over so many years.  Testimony from one couple always stood out in my mind. The husband said "You never leave a problem un-resolved," and the wive was quick to add, "Never say 'goodbye' or 'goodnight' until you honestly mean it." Perhapse these kinds of problems really do call for more and better communication between spouses. Often, it's one spouse in particular who subverts free exchange. In these cases, I'm not sure what to say.
Comment By: FreeLast Temple Knight on July 27, 2006 04:05:31 PM Report

A sad state of affairs when the sanctity of marriage is abused in such a horrible ways.  There has to be something that can be done, but as long as it goes unreported its almost impossible to stop.
This is a very descriptive poem that left me praying for things like this to stop.
If I see something like this happened I would report it!

Comment By: FreeZoya Zaidi on February 26, 2006 07:03:49 AM Report
A very serious yet very common problem, very well taken up here. The irony of the whole affair is that it is taken as the order of the day by all those who quietly endure it...I completely agree with you, it should not be taken lying down!
((((hugs for broaching a near taboo subject)))
Love, xxx, Zoya
Comment By: FreeMichael on January 16, 2006 01:05:16 AM Report
Ah Jody, if only these men could be sent to prison so they could have the opportunity to be on the receiving end - so to speak!

Comment By: Freekim on January 6, 2006 12:09:24 AM Report
..u have described this well...many are hurt by this unspeakable act...thanks for putting it to light so beautifully..and thanks for your comments and blessings... :)
Comment By: FreeDamon D. Brewer on December 12, 2005 04:35:11 PM Report
This is a wonderfully well written poem about a subject that shouldn't even exixst, but of course it does. No man or woman either for that matter has a right to force him/herself upon the other partner or anyone else for that matter, but to do it in the name of love and say. "I have the right to do this." I think not. There was a man here in Arkansas that raped a teenage girl that so far as I know wasn't even kin to him. One night after the word got around and there was no doubt as to who it was, several men paid him a visit at home and castrated him. That is the way that all Molesters should be treated in my humble opinion. Very good work.
Damon D. Brewer
Comment By: FreePaul Peter McLean on October 22, 2005 11:19:06 AM Report
If I may add to the mountain of congratulatory comments this poem has had. Wonderful work, not only because of the importance of the subject, but also because of the way you describe the situation so many women find themselves in. Hopefully the poem will act as a catalyst for discussion among all who read it. Well done Jody.
Comment By: Freenuttyforever on October 5, 2005 06:31:52 AM Report
sorry this is a late comment but i thought i wud say tht most girls on this site have been raped which has shocked me becuz i didnt think tht mny people were oin the same boat as me! this is a great poem and you are ryt no1 shud have this done 2 thm especially not by there husband but in my case by my DAD!!
Comment By: Freeobohwemu o. kennedy on August 12, 2005 10:04:09 AM Report
There she goes again,the Sensual Sorceress,N.W.Illinois...This is simply outstanding!two thumbs up!congrats on ur award!
Comment By: FreeJ on July 27, 2005 12:33:56 AM Report
The title and the poem are both incredible. It's extremely moving. You have a special ability to write well over broad subjects.
Comment By: FreeSavanahB on July 25, 2005 12:11:08 AM Report
Kudos on both the ribbon AND throwing this out where people are forced to acknowledge it exists! It is rape I don't care how you disguise it, powder it up, paint it up or sugar coat it. A worthy post ribbin or no ribbon! Tell 'em Jody! Jude
Comment By: PremiumLindaM on July 24, 2005 07:40:30 PM Report
I was so affected by this when I first read it
and I am not at all surprised to see that it
has received the recognition it deserves.
Congratulations on a job well done.
Comment By: FreeThe Bag Lady on July 21, 2005 03:11:46 PM Report
Congratulations, Ms. Sorceress, on such a well thought out work, that brings to light a very dark and nasty truth~! Too many men take the marriage license to great lengths to prove their "masculinity", but only destroys any love within the union~ Great work, and well deserving of an award~
Margaret....the old bag lady, battered woman's shelter worker
Comment By: FreeJames Lagoski on July 20, 2005 09:18:54 PM Report
Dear Jolen-
A rather different subject than any piece I have
read before-
In this day and age of sex for sale plastered all
over our newspapers-TV's-Radios and Computers,
This is a situation that has sadly gone on over
the years that normally leads to beatings if the
woman refuses and stands her ground-
I believe that some can not deal with the
changes that happen in most households after
children begin becoming additions to a family-
It becomes harder to find the time and sometimes
energy to feel the passion as was shared before-
Although the men (Sometimes women) don't think
that is a good enough reason to say no in a time
of feeling desire-
It is something that has lead to problems amongst
many couples for generations and is worse today
because of the explotation of our basic need to
We have turned the passion of sex into an industry that now is fed and fueled
by the greed of prosperity-
We will eventually destroy the fibers that build
a family for the passion that brings it together-
I thought you handled your description well
keeping the reader on the path of the subject-
May any who happen to be in this situation heed
the message you've written here-
Congratulations on its recognition-
Best Wishes to You My Friend~
Comment By: FreeCathy on July 20, 2005 01:05:22 PM Report
Congratulations on an excellent poem You so deserved this award
Comment By: FreeAlison Storm Wolf on July 20, 2005 12:40:39 PM Report
Congratulations for a well deserved reward. It is a difficult subject handled with skill.
Asw xxx
Comment By: PremiumGlata on July 20, 2005 09:27:16 AM Report
Once again I have to agree...You have recieved a well-deserved award, babe, and maybe this will help many women facing this same thing, day in and day out. Too often it happens...that a person will use that little certificate as a license to control and rule with an iron fist...
Girl, this is tops and I hope that it reaches many...
Love ya! And thanks for posting this. Congrats again!
Comment By: FreePoetic Soldier on July 20, 2005 09:20:39 AM Report
Very strong poem, you are always your hardest critic when it comes to poems. Pretty haunting to but the message does indeed deserve the award and maybe more people will take note.

Comment By: FreeSamantha Firefly on July 20, 2005 04:47:30 AM Report
This is an excellent write, Ms. Sorceress. Congratulations on your award.
Comment By: FreeGay Johnson on July 19, 2005 08:49:36 PM Report
Congratulations on the award for an award winning write. This need to be brought out in the open and I thank you for that.
Love Gentle Dove
Comment By: FreeRoger Bacon on July 19, 2005 07:41:13 PM Report
Great write Jody. How clever you tagged this type of crime. I will forever remember ribbons and bows rape.
Comment By: FreeIngwa on July 19, 2005 07:39:14 PM Report
Absolutely truly heartfelt, and I know exactly what you mean. Such a dreadful tale but told so well. String him up by the bits I say...the least that could happen. Congrats on the award, you do certainly deserve it!
Comment By: FreeSharon Jorcil James on July 19, 2005 07:37:18 PM Report
Congratulations Jody!!!!
Could not have been awarded to a finer poem.

Sharon JJ
Comment By: FreeBarbara Demasson on July 19, 2005 06:13:33 PM Report
This is one crime that is hidden because of the shame and confusion the woman feels...indeed, he has rights...but not to commit a crime, and rape is a crime. He may be her husband but he is no better than any other control freak that puts a woman through this hell. This is a very moving poem Jody, I have said it before and I'll say it again...this subject needs more exposure. You have done an excellent job toward that end...fine work!

I extend a hearty CONGRATULATIONS on behalf of the admistration and moderators of the site for this most deserving win.

Comment By: AdminRichardM on July 18, 2005 10:58:46 PM Report
A vivid, wonderful write this is. An excellent reminder there is substitute for choice, trust, and respect. Thank you for it!
Comment By: FreeCathy on June 30, 2005 09:18:04 PM Report
You are so right no means no you have written a wonderful poem while sending a very important message Bravo to you This has to stop
Comment By: FreeSandy J Hradil on June 2, 2005 01:44:04 AM Report
Yes it is a crime!! Sad but true many never seek help as they are ashamed and don't want to hurt the husband. Can you believe it they don't want to hurt his name his freedom........what about theirs!!! Hurt the husband......oh I would hurt him and anything else I could do without leaving evidence! Power control rape! Yep ugly but so many women fall prey.
EXCELLENT POEM OF TRUTH!!! Many will be helped by this poem!
Comment By: FreeTiffany Monae on April 30, 2005 11:29:36 PM Report
This was deep. Such a sad story I'm like speechless good write ~Pen&Paper~
Comment By: FreeWilliam on April 12, 2005 08:53:55 PM Report
So very sad and all too common. This along with date rape, child molestation and other heinous things that occur. It's a wonder that women can love men at all at times! Or even stand our presence! Not all men are guilty of these things but whenever we sit idly by and allow things to happen that we know are not right, we are to blame as well!

Superbly expressed! Bil
Comment By: FreeTodd on April 12, 2005 03:26:55 PM Report
A daring topic to say the least. Marriage is supposed to be a union of equals and it saddens me to think that this type of problem occures all too frequently by a few who live off of angry emotions and think they have the right to control by fear. Topics such as these are very emotional and that's what makes this piece and you Jody so great, for being brave enough to write and talk about it.
Comment By: FreeLeonard Wilson on April 9, 2005 03:53:05 AM Report
Three cheers for you, for posting this..All about control, it is, Aces..These men are very sick and insecure individuals..Rape is always rape...Furball....applauding
Comment By: FreeSadey on April 8, 2005 12:40:19 PM Report
Sadness! Awesome write!
Comment By: PremiumGlata on April 8, 2005 07:19:51 AM Report
I'm certain that this happens more often than not, and it's never reported, as, like you say, it's seen as a RIGHT rather than SHARING.
You've covered this as only you can, with directness and clarity that leaves none in question.
Great job on a tragic situation...May your words be heeded!
Love ya, sis!
Comment By: FreeHenry M. on April 8, 2005 07:13:43 AM Report
Excellently written Jody, I have no use for men who think it is their right to force themselves upon a woman, whether they be married or not. Love is a mutual sharing of one another and if one is not a willing participant then that is a crime. Women are such targets in this and that is a sad reflection on men who think that they have the right to take something that isn't given willingly. Again a wonderful write Jody, you have stood proudly for all women in this situation and I applaud you for it. Henry
Comment By: PremiumBruce A. Peaslee on April 8, 2005 06:45:19 AM Report
Jody- My hats off to you for this powerful piece, That it one the most powerful reasons to write, to tell a story in such a way that people are compelled to read and understand, Keep up the good work.

Comment By: FreeAlison Storm Wolf on April 8, 2005 06:24:58 AM Report
I cannot add much that has not already been said. It is all about power but it is also a case where a woman has to "Find her own power! "
Just like domestic violence, once started there is very seldom any going back.

This is where the woman has to decide that she is worthy of much more and fight back by getting up and walking out. I know it is a 'hidden crime' because for many women they are terribly "ashamed" that the person they loved so much is treating them this way. This often stops them from seeking help.
However, women simply MUST discover their inner WARRIOR and stand up to this. All bullies run when confronted and raping men are loathsome bullies. He would only do it to me once!!!
Alison SW snarling and baring her teeth for all women.
Comment By: FreeCraig David Dawson on April 8, 2005 06:05:17 AM Report
Abuse in any way shape or form is uncondonable....especially the "forgotten" crimes of marital and male rape. If we turn away and dont confront such things...we are all culpable.
A genuinely sobering piece of prose Jody.
Comment By: FreeSamantha Firefly on April 8, 2005 05:55:27 AM Report
Excellent message, Lady Sorceress.
Comment By: Freeb doneff on April 8, 2005 05:49:04 AM Report
Jody, I hope your friend does not let this haunt her for the rest of her life. Tell her to get away from him, far away. This is almost worse than rape from a stranger. This person promised to love you, care for you..and then they do that. It hurts worse than anyone can imagine, and who do you tell? Not many, because you are married; he has that right. HOGWASH!!!!! This was a reach out and grab you by the throat poem Jody. The things that we do to each other under the blanket word of love. Heinous and debilitating, creating a scar that lasts for a long long time. The title was perfect, and the rest of it so very, very true. Barbie
Comment By: FreeBarbara Demasson on April 8, 2005 02:24:49 AM Report
A crime it is and it needs more exposure. I've written on this very subject...the statistics are staggering.

Fine write Jody!

Comment By: PremiumJoe McNinney on April 8, 2005 01:24:25 AM Report
I might be wrong but I think here in New York a spouse cannot file rape charges against another spouse if they are still married and under the same roof, this was a powerful piece of writing Jody, Joe
Comment By: FreeFLETCHER on April 7, 2005 11:36:33 PM Report
This emotional write is a stand out message about how cruel
some poeple are. No one has the right to force another. Great way to bring this hideous crime to light. Very well put.
Yours ......... Fletch

Comment By: PremiumLindaM on April 7, 2005 10:39:14 PM Report
Jody, this is so powerful and the message
comes through loud and clear. The title is
perfect for the horrible situation of spousal
rape. A marriage vow does not include
submitting to forced sex. It has to be a
loving act between two willing partners or
it is rape. That man needs help and if he
refuses to get it, she needs to leave.
Thank you for this powerful piece.

Comment By: FreeReBeL CuTiE on April 7, 2005 09:41:26 PM Report
You are ever so right when you a marriage certificate does not give you right to kill your spouse be it physical, mental, or emotional.


Comment By: Freetom on April 7, 2005 09:17:31 PM Report
hooray for Jody that is so true hon great poem and wonderfully written I hope that more reads it and it helps everyone but If it helps just one then others well follow
hugs kisses
Comment By: FreeDarkness Rides This Night on April 7, 2005 08:24:52 PM Report
I tip my hat to you my friend..! You cut to the quick with your poetry..! And you are right..! This is a crime..! And a hidious one at that..!
Comment By: FreeSharon Jorcil James on April 7, 2005 08:08:32 PM Report
Your choice to refer to this as "ribbons & bow rape" is befitting of the crime. Sadly this is all too real. A tracic write penned out of genuine concern for your friend and women as a whole. Beautiful of you Jody.

Sharon JJ


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